My best friend from high school has put me in an awkward place.
She's unhappily married with two children and has a boyfriend.
Her boyfriend is a dude we went to highschool with (a great guy)...whom she hasn't seen in 10 years. They only text and facebook cause he's married with children too. They've been communicating for about 2 months.
Yesterday she tells me they are going to Canada to get secretly married. (They can't get married here cause they are both still married). She asked me to find out what they need to do and stuff since neither of them can use thier home computers for that.
I love my friend dearly...we're peas in a pod...but i am not sure how to be supportive of her during this time. I am the only person she's telling.
I don't care about the cheating, i am concerned about the marrying.
Answer by QueenMomma2023 at 9:46 AM on Oct. 12, 2010
I just don't get why they won't break up with their spouse first....it makes no sense to get married while you are already married. What the hell are they going to do when they get back from Canada? Both of them could get seriously screwed by this. If either of their SO's find out they went & got married, they could take everything away from them including their kids. Ask her if it is worth getting her kids taken away. That will look so bad in the eyes of a judge... she will get no alimony, no nothing. She is setting her life up for failure & you need to let her know that. You're her friend, tell her in a loving way that she is messing up her life by making this choice.
I would tell her no, that i am not going to help her. I would not support that at all.
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