Ok, so my dh cheated about 3 years ago. It really broke my heart in a million pieces but we decided to stay together and make it work. Well fast forward to now...I know he loves me, is not and will not cheat again, and we get along really well, only problem is that I can't be myself with him anymore. Everytime we have sex I'm always thinkin that maybe something is wrong with me. It makes me feel as if it is not worth it sleeping with him anymore because I am not getting any satisfaction from it. Honestly I would rather help myself----if you know what i mean. It just feels like this wall between us. Has anyone else been through this and how did you make it better?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:13 AM on Oct. 27, 2008 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 2:30 AM on Oct. 27, 2008
I have been through this... It sucks to all of a sudden be stripped of feeling sexy in front of your loved one. You always feel am I not good enough is that why he cheated, was my body not tight enough, what did she do differently etc.. no one should feel this way when they are being intimate. I felt that way for awhile and finally I said either I need to end the relationship because it's not fair to me or him or I need to just let go try some new things and know I am hot and I am good and if he doesn't like it then what am I gonna do. because in the end your only hurting your relationship because your holding back. If I were you try just letting go and saying screw it for one night and see where it leads you... hey you never know it could spark up something new!
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Answer by Anonymous at 12:23 AM on Oct. 28, 2008
Well my SO just told me (one week ago) that he have a girlfriend , and he say that they didn't have sex yet. She wants my permission first. I can tell you: the first thing, don't feel like you aren't good enough because you are better then him. And they don't go out cheating just because the wife isn't good enough, they do it to prove to them self that they still can get somebody else. So I really believe the reason they do is because they aren't good enough,and have low selfstem. If you still want to be with him, let go this feeling, watch some porn, to get new ideas and shown to him how good you are. If doesn't work. Sorry get divorce. I will. Good luck.
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