I had my first parent teacher conference yesterday at my Head Start school. The biggest problem that he is having is understanding transistioning and having meltdowns. He goes into hysterics when he doesn't get his way. During planned activities he doesn't do what he's told and typically gets up to do his own thing which distracts the other kids. I was asked to start getting him an hour earlier each day (which means they won't be feeding him lunch), right when they would be taking the kids outside, because that's when he throws the biggest fit (when he has to come inside) and work on him at home for about 2 weeks until he can come inside without throwing a fit when told to do so.
I've tried explaining this to DH and what he needs to do (he's the one staying home with him) for us to accomplish getting him back on track, but I don't think he quite gets the seriousness of it and I'm getting frustrated (more).