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Should young childern be disaplined differently with a 5 year age gap?

I feel with having an eight and three year old there punishments need to be diffrent being there is such a big age gap. But my husband feels that i have to punish them equally. which is right?

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Asked by supermommy1983 at 3:19 PM on Oct. 12, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • They should get age appropriate punishments. There are NO one size fits all approaches to kids.

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 3:20 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • You are right.

    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 3:22 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • A punishment needs to be specific to the child and the crime.

    If you had twins and one hated tv ... you wouldn't punish that child by taking away tv simply because it works with the other child... even when they are the same age.  kwim???

    A 3 yr olds understandingof punishment and time are SO different than that of an 8 yr old it would either be crewel towards the 3 yr old or ridiculously ineffective  towards the 9 yr old.


    Answer by sahlady at 3:28 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • You are right. Age going to discipline a 16 yr old the same as an 11 yr old?? Tell your hubby to get a clue LOL

    Answer by 2BlondeBabies at 3:29 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • Maybe you could do it similar, like put the 3year old in time out wile you put the other in his/her room. Or taking away their fav toy. But there is no way that you can punish them the same way a 3 year old wont understand and 8 year olds punishment. But its ok all men think they know everything lol.

    Answer by AmberNicoley at 3:39 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • they should be age appropriate punishments, and a 3 and 8 year old need different punishments, just like a 1 and a 6 year old need different punishments, and a 6 and a 11 year old.

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 9:07 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

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