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After I was born my mother abandoned my family leaving behind my dad, 2 older brothers and me. My childhood was not the best & about 4 1/2 months ago I found out that I was pregnant. I ended up losing the baby & I constantly think about the baby. I feel horrible but I feel good that my baby wouldn't have to experience this life. I wouldn't have been the best mother. Am I a bad person for feeling this way?

1 of my brothers is 26 and he is currently im prison and slowly straightening out his life. Im 21 yearsold and I honestly don't think I would have been able to support my baby.

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:08 PM on Oct. 12, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • this shows selflessness and that is a good quality...keep your head up, everything happens for a reason : ) (((hugs)))

    Answer by mamagee1218 at 9:11 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • You are grieving. Nothing is wrong with what you are thinking. You did not cause the loss. Prepare yourself for your future and your future children.

    Answer by tootoobusy at 9:22 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • I think it's fine. One day, down the road, you may change your mind. I'm sorry about your Mom skipping out on you guys.

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 9:35 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • I remember when I found out I was pregnant a while ago thinking that I just wasn't ready. My grandmother had passed (for whom I was a caregiver), my ds had developmental isses (didn't know what it was then) and my best friend was a missing person. When I miscarried I felt so guilty! But I now realize it wasn't my fault. You can't help how you think and feel! And just because your mom wasn't a good mother doesn't mean you won't be when the time is right.

    Answer by Austinsmom35 at 3:48 PM on Oct. 13, 2010

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