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Do you ever wonder, "what if"?

I am a huge believer in "Everything happens for a reason", but lately... some people from my past have come back into my life. It's really got me stuck in the "what ifs", and it's killing me! Am I completely alone?

Don't get me wrong, I love my life. I love my husband, my kids are smart, healthy, well-rounded, well behaved kids. I'm not perfect, and neither is my life, but I'm happy with it. I just can't help but wonder sometimes. I heard that song by Little Texas, "What Might Have Been", and in my situation, its 100% fitting. "I try not to think about what might have been. Cause that was then, and we have taken different roads. We can't go back again, there's no use giving in, and there's no way to know.. what might have been"

Do you ever wonder, "what if" or "What might have been"?

 
SAHMomOf3

Asked by SAHMomOf3 at 10:55 PM on Oct. 12, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (11)
  • i try not to but sometimes i do but i'm thankful for what i have a great husband ans amazing son
    linseyfrayer

    Answer by linseyfrayer at 3:06 AM on Oct. 15, 2010

  • Nope ... thinkin' like that gives me anxiety
    kaylan010

    Answer by kaylan010 at 10:56 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • No, I know what if with my exs. They were losers and cheaters. I would just ended up with even more of a broken heart if I never left them.
    mommy_of_two388

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 10:56 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • no, i know what my life wouldve been like if my husband didnt walk into the picture when he did. i always tell him he saved me
    shay1130

    Answer by shay1130 at 10:58 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • lots since my husband cheated on me. i wonder what life would have been like if i never met him. i talked to a friend from high school on facebook a month ago about how neither of us had lives turn out how we thought they would. but you have to take what you have, and just go on.
    happy-go-lucky

    Answer by happy-go-lucky at 10:58 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • For the most part I know what would have been if I'd stayed with any of my ex's so I don't worry about that. But I do wonder "what if" about a lot of other things, mainly "what if" I hadn't moved across country and spent my teen years in my hometown. I'm scared to know what would have happened with that one. However, I don't believe that anything happens for a reason, but that everything happens as a result of decisions we have made, decisions that someone made for us, or by just random/indifferent nature. I don't think I'm where I am because I'm "supposed" to be here, I think I am because I made the choices to get myself here and along the way occasionally got lucky by being in the right place at the right time.
    jessicarae787

    Answer by jessicarae787 at 10:59 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • No not really I am just glad I got him now bc his ex is probably wondering "WHAT IF"...lol She wanted to see if it was greener on the other side but all she found was hey.
    Butterfly1108

    Answer by Butterfly1108 at 11:01 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • No, nope, nada, never. There are so many things in my life that had to happen the way it did for me to be where I am today and I am SO happy where I am today. Any "what if's" would lead me on another path that I do not want to even think about. So, no, don't wonder about them...don't care to wonder.
    AllAboutKeeley

    Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 11:01 PM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • Never. I already know that if my situation with certain people wouldn't have changed I would be a horrible person and in a terrible situation right now.
    MmmmMamaBear

    Answer by MmmmMamaBear at 1:28 AM on Oct. 13, 2010

  • I did a question just like this early this morning.

    I often wonder what if I didn't use protection every time I had sex with a new partner. Would I even be here or would I have died from contracting a deathly STD? Would I also have kids from one-night-stands or the one time I cheated on my boyfriend (at the time)?
    _Tam_

    Answer by _Tam_ at 2:33 PM on Oct. 13, 2010

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