My oldest wants to write her bio-dad a letter. The only way I know how to contact him is through FB. I though about setting up a account for her but she is only 9(almost 10) and let her write one that way. What would you do? We don't have a mailing address for him. He has not even seen her 1 time since she has been born. I know (from his mouth) he wants nothing to do with her, but she still wants to write him. She wants to let him know about how she feels about him and that she wants her daddy(my husband) who has been in her life since she was 9 months old to adopt her. Of course he does not care about that and is more then willing to give up his rights to her, but she has so many questions that need answers and only he can answer for himself. Would you set up a FB account for her?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:45 PM on Oct. 13, 2010 in Parenting Debate
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 7:03 PM on Oct. 13, 2010
Answer by MommaTurbo at 6:47 PM on Oct. 13, 2010
I still wouldn't do it either - life is full of disappointments and I would rather my daughter be disappointed that I couldn't find contact information rather than the disappointment and deep psychological issues generated by being directly rejected by the man who sired her.
It's really odd that they won't give out a mailing address - really odd. That sends up all kinds of red flags in my mind and there isn't ANYWAY I would expose one of my children to that kind of unstable situation. The risk is high and the chance of benefit seems incredibly low. I think I'd also be a tad bit embarrassed for her to find out the actual character of the man I chose to be her father.
Answer by Dr.Donna at 7:19 PM on Oct. 13, 2010
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 6:50 PM on Oct. 13, 2010
Answer by CJM_SHM at 6:50 PM on Oct. 13, 2010
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Answer by jroseh68 at 6:58 PM on Oct. 13, 2010
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