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Does doing something over-and-over again...

and not knowing why sound like an addiction to you? What if you've been caught and you say you won't do it again, but you do anyway?

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Asked by JeffsBaby1 at 11:57 PM on Oct. 13, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Or a obsession?

    Answer by Flower_Mom at 12:00 AM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • need more detail to understand if its an addiction or not

    Answer by miritrose at 12:00 AM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • Either that or an obsession

    Answer by LiLJeni at 3:40 AM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • Like what exactly?
    Addiction, obsession or plain want.

    Answer by PinkLentil at 5:53 AM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • well i caught him looking at/watching porn 3 times and he said he wouldn't do it again and he did.
    he knows how i feel about that kind of stuff and he doesn't know why he did it again.


    Comment by JeffsBaby1 (original poster) at 10:17 AM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • watching porn 3 times in what time frame??? one hour, one day, one week, month??? that does not sound like addiction or obsession to just sounds like he needed or was looking for sexual stimulation. he knows why he does watch porn.
    i understand that you don't like it but there is nothing wrong with watching porn if its in moderation....its a normal thing for men in my opinion...maybe you should just ask him to show you more respect and not do it when you are around. i don't know i don't mean to disrespect your feelings.

    Answer by Ladyblue38 at 10:59 AM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • Sounds more like a compulsion than addiction. Compulsion can be helped with cognitive therapy by a licensed therapist.

    Answer by _Tam_ at 11:52 AM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • Sounds like he sees nothing wrong with porn and tells you he'll stop to pacify you. Apparently he doesn't understand that it hurts you so he has no inclination to stop.
    Let him find porn of huge penises on the computer and see how he feels about you looking at it. Maybe he'll begin to understand.

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 11:56 AM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • Sounds like he's lying. He knows why he looks at porn. He know's why he did after you said didn't like it as well. But that's going to require honesty from both of you if you are going to get those answers. Why is this an issue for you? Is this something you can agree to disagree on? Is this a make or break it deal in your relationship?

    Answer by isabellalecour at 1:06 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • It depends, how many times does he watch porn a day,week or month. What would you consider to much porn? If he can't stop watching porn at all, then he's addicted. No disrepect, maybe you should make your own porn. Then he can watch you over and over again. Hopefully he'll realize what he get(s) from porn he already have at home.Good luck.

    Answer by TwannaB. at 1:09 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

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