Listen. Listen some more. Let her cry without fear of rebuke. Be there when she needs to talk. Her feelings are natural, and there is no way to get her to stop feeling that hurt, except to allow time to pass by. The link below might help with practical advice:
It is a brochure entitled "When Someone You Love Dies" These are some of the questions it answers, and I find it to be very comforting to a grieving person as well as those who are helping them to cope:
Has someone you loved fallen asleep in death? Are you still grieving? Do you need help in dealing with your grief? Is there hope for the dead? If so, what is it? How can we be sure?
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