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The unwed using terms like "my hubby"

Does it annoy the heck out of anyone else when boyfriend/ girlfriend couples refer to each other as "hubby" or "wifey"? Or when people talk like a marriage or long term relationship is not a big deal?

First case scenerio, my own sister. A couple of times she has referred to my husband (10 years) as my boyfriend. I correct her and she says it's the same to her. She's single and "commitment" to her has lasted about a year on average.

Second, my brother in law's girlfriend. They've been dating for a year and have not made any marriage plans. She refers to me as her sister in law. I can't stand it.

I think I get offended by it because I have put a lot of time, patience, love, sacrifice, growth, EVERYTHING into my marriage. Wife is an earned title damn it. LOL ;)

BTW, I don't want any long term but no marriage ladies out there to be offended. :) Not about that.

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:00 PM on Oct. 14, 2010 in Relationships

Answers (13)
  • nope, why do I care what someone else calls their significant other?

    Answer by peanutsmommy1 at 3:03 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • I never heard this before.

    Answer by mompam at 3:04 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • Yes, it annoys me when couples that haven't been together very long do that. A year isn't very long. But I know a few couples that have been together longer than other couples I know have been married and they refer to themselves as that (usually jokingly) and it doesn't bother me, because they more or less are.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:05 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • that drives me nuts too!! my husbands friends do it all the time with their girlfreinds and I am usually quick to inform them that it takes alot more paperwork to get rid of the flavor of the week if she is actualy your 'wifey'

    Answer by pregoagain2010 at 3:05 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • i dont like it when people call my SO my husband because we are not married... or some of the other ones you listed but i dont really mind if its other people calling them selves any of those i just want my title to be clear... i just feel embarased when i have to correct them because then they think that im married and im not

    Answer by jaksonsmommy at 3:07 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • i think that if they have been together and live, act and feel married then there is nothing wrong with it...of the TRUE feelings are there then i am nobody to judge or be offended about it...

    Answer by iNk-FrEaK at 3:13 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • I don't think it is appropriate but it doesn't bother me enough to correct them.. being legally bound to a person is different than committing to them verbally.... telling someone that you will give them 500 bucks is different than If I sign a contract stating that I will give them 500 bucks no matter what.

    Answer by MamaJasmine at 3:24 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • It got on my nerves that a co-worker of mine would call her bf her husband. Even a few ppl would be confused and say, "I didn't know you were married." LOL

    Answer by twinmama2five at 3:26 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • I have a friend who has been with her bf for a LONG time, they own a home together and have a son, they are not married, but they refer to eachother as husband and wife. It doesn't bother me, but I tend to notice it every time she says it...

    Answer by gramsmom at 3:39 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • i actually use these terms me and my man been together for 6yrs now so i feel married :) but if they have been together for less than 2 yrs yes it pisses me off def

    Answer by Tiffany_Rivera_ at 3:41 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

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