Me personally. I just tell him. My view is this.
If I don't tell him, how can I expect him to just '"know".. I can not look at my husband's ass and read his mind, therefore I do not expect him to do that.. LOL... My husband, like most men in general, does not get subtle hints, mainly because he knows that if he interprets them wrongly, it could cause problems.. lol. So he doesn't interpret anything that's just a hint .. lol
I know when I was young (early 20's) and we were first married. I was foolish and thought, "well, if I were this, or do this, etc.. he'll know what I want and it will happen".. Sadly, most of the time, he didn't just "get it", and then I would have hurt feelings and feelings of rejection because he didn't respond to me the way I expected or wanted. I learned that in order to get the response/reaction I was looking for, I had to make my intentions/my wants/my needs clearly known.
at 3:46 PM on Oct. 14, 2010