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i want three to four kids but hubby is strict about only have two, any advice?

i really want more but he is really against it. i guess i just have to live with it? is there any compromise on this one?

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anxious1stimer

Asked by anxious1stimer at 3:59 PM on Oct. 14, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Be happy with what you have.
    My3Ez

    Answer by My3Ez at 4:01 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • do you have any yet??
    We both wanted 2 to maybe 3 - then we had our son and have both realized 1 was enough for us..
    maxsmom11807

    Answer by maxsmom11807 at 4:02 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • This should have been talked about before you even decided to marry and produce.
    BradenIsMySon

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 4:02 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • be happy with 2... kids are hard work and not cheap specially in this economy..id be happy with what you have and 2 is half of 4 so that is compromising , my husband is the one that wanted 4 he gets two i wanted 1 so its a good 50/50
    alcnic27

    Answer by alcnic27 at 4:04 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • he changed his mind about having 3. we have two now but i guess that scared him off of having more.
    anxious1stimer

    Comment by anxious1stimer (original poster) at 4:05 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • dh and i did not discuss children at all until we got pregnant the first time. after two, he said that was enough and he did not want anymore. he didn't not want anymore enough to get snipped, or wear a condom, or even to pull out in time and now we have 5 : )
    5 is really fun, but really chaotic at times too! Two was really fun, and not as much chaos!
    How serious is your dh? does he want to get a vasectomy?
    good luck to you!
    happy2bmom25

    Answer by happy2bmom25 at 4:08 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • I think you should go with a happy medium. 2 1/2.

    :)
    LostTheSlipper

    Answer by LostTheSlipper at 4:12 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • happy2 he said he is seriously considering the vastecomy!!! :( we will see tho. easier said than done I am sure.
    anxious1stimer

    Comment by anxious1stimer (original poster) at 4:28 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • there are some studies that may show a correlation between prostate cancer and vasectomies...you could print out the studies and leave them laying around!
    happy2bmom25

    Answer by happy2bmom25 at 5:34 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

  • I have 3, he has 3 we have 6 total. I had no choice but to get an emergency complete hysterectomy at 29 or bleed to death. A year later I went with him to have his vac. They do NOT get put under! There are 5 very big needles that go in the sack (sorry if TMI) and he bawled like a baby!
    Babylove76

    Answer by Babylove76 at 5:40 PM on Oct. 14, 2010

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