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my DD's father showed up drunk today...

yes, hes a douchebag....he was in town so he decided to come by and visit...its only the 4th or 5th time he has met her...she is 13 weeks...he partied hardy last night and was still intoxicated when he showed up today...he was not slurring or stumbling but definitely buzzed and reeking of alcohol...i said 'you look like youre still drunk' and he nodded his head in agreement...he recently got out of jail after being there for a month because he wrecked and they searched him because he was slurring his words...turns out he had 2 Xanax on him and had BAC of .04 at the hosp plus theres more- long story....so anyways, my question is, should i say anything to him? It really really bothers me that he would do that...he is such a loser in every way...plus he was driving his moms car.....should i tell her?? should i tell him to stay away until we go to court for support/visitation??

 
mamagee1218

Asked by mamagee1218 at 9:30 PM on Oct. 16, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Anon.....shame on you.

    Keep a log. and be very careful.
    QandA

    Answer by QandA at 9:48 PM on Oct. 16, 2010

  • You didn't know he was a douche bag BEFORE having sex/a child? ::sigh:: This is why people shouldn't jump into sex in a relationship. The kids pay for it in the end.
    I would tell him he needs to NEVER show up unannounced and/or drunk again or to keep his distance until a court order is in place.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:33 PM on Oct. 16, 2010

  • If he's going to come around his child drunk, yeah keep him away until he grows up ir you get court visitations set up. As for being drunk and driving his moms car, I would call the police the moment he left your house and let them know what he's driving and which way he headed so he doesnt hurt anyone.
    mommy_of_two388

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 9:33 PM on Oct. 16, 2010

  • I would say something to him, but not his mom. No one needs to be around a 13 week old drunk.
    dancinintherain

    Answer by dancinintherain at 9:32 PM on Oct. 16, 2010

  • Your priority is to your daughter to keep her safe and well cared for. Allowing an intoxicated person around her is not an option. Document his behavior for court. Boundries protect your daughter and you shouldn't be afraid to set them.
    SheridansMom

    Answer by SheridansMom at 9:39 PM on Oct. 16, 2010

  • Anon...was that necessary? i think its a bit late for lectures and your not my mother...
    mamagee1218

    Comment by mamagee1218 (original poster) at 9:42 PM on Oct. 16, 2010

  • yeah tell him im dealing with the same thing only i have a protective order in place so this DOESNt happen and i have a seven month old. you have a 3 1/2 month old and thats when i separated form his drunk azz
    silverelf

    Answer by silverelf at 9:54 PM on Oct. 16, 2010

  • The best way to handle this and i STRONGLY advise to.... tell him that he needed to leave.. call the cops... have him arrested and get his rights REMOVED!! ********IF********* he ever grows up.. then it will be your CHOICE to let him see her.. and if he at any point crosses a line you are comfortable with... you can cut him out.. if your child ever wants to meet him when they are older.. then you can choose to allow it (if you still have know about of him) and then go from there!
    Ross2010

    Answer by Ross2010 at 10:25 PM on Oct. 16, 2010

  • DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. this will prove handy when fighting custody/visitation battles. As for telling his mom, would she protect him or agree??
    rachealbyrd

    Answer by rachealbyrd at 12:26 AM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • I would tell him that if he wants to see his daughter that he needs to get himself straightened out first. Neither one of you need that.
    amessageofhope

    Answer by amessageofhope at 12:57 AM on Oct. 17, 2010

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