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I need help with getting my husband now to help disapline my children with me...

I am divorced. I got remarried and my ex husband put a protective order on my husband fiance at the time. It has now been taking off and Im still having a hard time getting him to help me disapline the children. My ex husbands wife disaplines my shildren so how can I make my husband feel okay about helping me? It is really hard being the only one doing all the disaplining and I feel like giving up.

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susiebabz09

Asked by susiebabz09 at 12:55 PM on Oct. 17, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • When you talk to him....smart small. Just ask that he back you up in front of the kids....that should ease him into it. He's probably gun-shy with the TRO and all. Have patience with him - he'll get there.
    Babylove76

    Answer by Babylove76 at 1:03 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • Both your ex-husband and your current husband should know that when your current husband married you, he was taking on the responsibility of a husband AND father. Work out how you want your children disciplined in your home. Ask him what he feels comfortable doing. Baby steps will work with this one.
    _Tam_

    Answer by _Tam_ at 1:54 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • He needs to know why you need unity. You need it because it is fair to you, supportive, and great for the children to see the both of you take a stand on their behavior. He would be doing a wonderful thing by backing you up. GL!
    2tinyhineys

    Answer by 2tinyhineys at 2:36 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • DISCIPLINE has to be discussed and agreed on and consistent and you need to back each other up.
    kerp1960

    Answer by kerp1960 at 10:26 PM on Oct. 18, 2010

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