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Gender Specifics?

Are there certain things you are gender specific on? Do you not allow your sons to do things your daughters would be allowed, or visa versa? Do you not allow certain colors, clothing, toys or other things based solely on gender?

Why or Why not?

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Asked by SabrinaMBowen at 1:02 PM on Oct. 17, 2010 in Parenting Debate

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  • Can't think of a single thing because I really can't think of anything that should by gender specific. Oh, wait, I don't think I'd pass down my daughters' bras to their littlebrother and I don't think I'd buy my daughters a jock strap. That's about it!

    Answer by ceallaigh at 1:06 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • HaHa... I guess that counts. lol!

    Comment by SabrinaMBowen (original poster) at 1:08 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • I don't mind what my son does as far as toys, clothes, and activities. While he's pretty manly, loves guns, forts and army guys, he also loves cooking, art and gymnastics. I'm supportive of him whatever he does- wish I could say the same for his dad!!

    Answer by skittles1108 at 1:11 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • my son is encouraged to feel comfortable asking for any type of toy, color, etc he wants. he is very much a boy boy by choice though

    Answer by BlacksheepSati at 1:38 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • My boys have never really asked for anything "girly". My oldest did have a dora backpack when he was little, the light purple one that really looked like backpack. He wanted it, i got it. Dh said it was for girls lol. I didn't care, thats what he wanted.

    Answer by MissAlisabeth at 1:47 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • Whatever my daughter wants, gender-wise is OK with me. She already has the biggest collection of Hot Wheels/Matchbox cars I've ever seen (and Daddy loves playing cars with her.)

    Answer by SWasson at 2:15 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • Clothing is my only thing. I won't put my son in a dress or "Girl" colors. Just as most "Boy" colors are off limits to my daughter. When they're older and decide for themselves otherwise that's fine. Until then I choose. My children can play with whatever toys they want. Whether they're technically for another gender or not. I don't see any harm in a boy playing with barbies or dressing up, it's only pretend. So they are allowed to play with whatever toy they find fun.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 2:32 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • So far no because my children are little and what matters is that it is fun.

    Answer by 2tinyhineys at 2:40 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • Nope except if I had a daughter I would let her wear dresses out and I don't let my sons wear their dresses outside the apartment yet.

    Answer by purpleducky at 5:38 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

  • JazzlikeMraz,what colors do you consider "boy" and "girl" colors? So you wouldn't ever let your daughter wear something blue? And I've seen some quite "manly" men in pink. I think the whole gender colors thing is so stupid anymore. What are you afraid of, the wearing a pink t-shirt is gonna make him gay?

    Answer by ceallaigh at 6:41 PM on Oct. 17, 2010

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