I have just had my dh return from a recent deployment from Afghanistan and am finding myself frustrated with the lack of communication. We did not see eye to eye about everything before he left but he talked like when he came home it would be more like a 2nd honeymoon. Well? It isn't happening like that. He is acting depressed and anxious as well as wants to be with others more than with me. We cannot seem to get along. We have 3 children 5, 3, and almost 9 months. I need some help finding reasons and means to cope with it all. It hasn't been easy this past year but who is he that returns home??Answer Question
Answer by luschram at 12:17 PM on Oct. 28, 2008
Answer by matthewscandi at 12:34 PM on Oct. 28, 2008
This is common! He may need counselling. This is a very hard time for everyone. (I have been though the same thing with my husband) It's easier for him to be with people that understand what he has been through. Most of these guys come home with PTSD, whether they admit it or not. It is gonna take time and patience on your part. Things aren't just going to fall back into place, it takes work. And he needs time to feel safe again. In the town we live in there is a fire siren that you can hear all over town. It's been 3 years and my husband STILL cringes because it sounds so much like the mortar alarm. Just be kind and patient. But on the same side of the coin, don't take any crap either!
Answer by evilabbysmom at 12:36 PM on Oct. 28, 2008
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Answer by Austinsmom35 at 5:38 PM on Oct. 28, 2008