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Halloween party & spoke to a grandma (someone else's)

At a party this weekend, I saw with a grandma to have some conversation. She mentioned that she is taking care of her grown son, his girlfriend (with one on the way), and their two kids. She even mentioned that once she get home from work, the mother jet sets her way out of the house to who knows where (both the son & the girlfriend don't work). The grandmother seemed very frustrated. The grandmother asked me what she can do for the situation. (What can she do - meaning her grandchildren?) She also said that the third was intentional, even though the mother is not disciplining the one and two year olds. She was very frustrated.

What can the grandmother do about the situation?
What compels parents (mother) to want another baby when she has no interest in her two others?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:38 AM on Oct. 18, 2010 in Relationships

Answers (5)
  • The mother wants and loves the attention she gets. She wants the glory without the work.
    QueenMomma2023

    Answer by QueenMomma2023 at 10:41 AM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • This grandmother is enabling. She has taught the "children" that she will take care of them and they do not need to be responsible.
    tootoobusy

    Answer by tootoobusy at 10:43 AM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • Some woman do it to try & fill a "hole". They feel empty for some reason & they think the more kids they have, the more loved they will be. My ex's mother did this. She was a horrible, non-existant mother but kept thinking she should have more kids. Even her Dr. told her at number 4 that she needs to stop because she was literally going nuts from her own mental probalms. Anyhow, she now admits she was trying to fill a void that cannot be filled by having children or boyfriends. She had 6 all together & they all hate her & don't talk to her anymore. It's very sad.

    The grandmother is going to have to practice tough love. That will probably be the only way they will stop taking advantage of her. I know it must be hard, since they're her grandchildren...BUT, there needs to be a line drawn. Tough love can be ver hard, but very successful.
    samurai_chica

    Answer by samurai_chica at 10:52 AM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • * problems
    samurai_chica

    Answer by samurai_chica at 10:52 AM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • The grandmother is enabling them to be irresponsible immature parents. She needs to give them 3 months to get jobs, a new place, and get out. I don't understand people who use their family like that but obviously they exist.
    Orionsgirl

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 12:16 PM on Oct. 18, 2010

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