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2 Bumps

What age would you

allow your daughter too have a boyfriend? What should the age difference be?

let your daughters boyfriend come over?

let them watch a movie in the room with the door open?

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Asked by KFree907 at 11:27 PM on Oct. 18, 2010 in Teens (13-17)

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Answers (17)
  • 16 3years nothing more and never no boys in my daughters room ever

    Answer by mamamtobe at 11:28 PM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • 15-16, can come over right away (I'd like to meet him and I'd rather they spend time at home v. going out...), age difference, when she's that young, maybe a year? Probably don't need to be in her room, EVER.

    Answer by DMac08 at 11:31 PM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • I think it depends on her maturity level. I wouldn't know until I knew she was ready, meaning I can't pick an age NOW ( i dont even have a daugter yet lol) I think I will just know when she is ready..

    Answer by ElsaSalsaaa at 11:31 PM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • At least 15 but probably no exclusive dates until 16. No more than a 2 year age difference at 15, maybe 3 years by 16. As for boys in the room - if her room was in a private area of the house then no but if was near the main living space where people would be walking past her WIDE OPEN door then maybe depending on who was taking up other parts of the house where they could watch TV or whatever. I dunno I'll have to cross that bridge if I ever get there.

    Answer by jessicarae787 at 11:34 PM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • Our kids can date once they start HS. The rule isn't any different from our sons and daughter, when they start Highschool, they can date. I'm not picky about age difference, I would be rather hypocritical to put an age limit on them because I always dated people which most people would have placed outside my "age range." Prior to HS they can have "boy/girlfriends" but they can't go out one on one with them, group dates only. And they are always going to be welcome in my home. As for the "in the room" issue, my DH will be the one getting upset by that kind of thing, not me... I don't see anything wrong with them being in her room... I was never allowed to have friends in my room (boys or girls) and I just had sex on the couch in the livingroom... So I really see no reason to make those rules in the first place. Plus, I'm not one of these "no sex" moms... Hopefully they aren't 13, but at 16, I'm not gonna have an issue...

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 11:38 PM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • boyfriend? ehhh.... I'd try and avoid the labeling if possible.

    My daughter could have a male friend come over and watch a movie anytime. At 5 years or 15 years. Doors always open, no exceptions. As long as she was trustworthy and willing to abide by my rules I'd give her privacy & respect in return. But no funny business.

    Answer by hibbingmom at 11:39 PM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • I'm totally with hibbingmom on this one. Any age would be fine with me.

    Answer by Mrs.BAT at 11:42 PM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • 16 years old (maybe some give on that if she's close to 16), 3 years age difference. I'd let him come over, because at least at my house, I'd have some idea of what they're up to. Same age for the movie with the door open. Also, make sure your daughter knows about safe sex, and how you feel as a family about sex in general.

    Answer by musicpisces at 11:51 PM on Oct. 18, 2010

  • 16, if they're ready by then, but preferably not until 18. He could come over any time. I'd rather have them nearby where I can keep an eye on them. And as for letting them watch a movie together, I'd prefer a group movie night, rather than just the two of them... Plus, you don't really get to know each other watching a movie.

    Answer by Reenieredhead at 12:11 AM on Oct. 19, 2010

  • I think all that depends on your daughter and you. It might be different for different people.

    Answer by LiLJeni at 2:40 AM on Oct. 19, 2010

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