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Do women apologize more than men?

Excerpts from article by Elizabeth Bernstein, WSJ online.
Conventional wisdom says women apologize too much, and men don't apologize often enough. Women are good at nurturing relationships, the thinking goes, while men are too egotistical to say they're sorry or have a different take on social graces. Yet there's no proof that women are better than men at apologizing—they just do it more often, sometimes for inconsequential offenses.

Two small studies at the University of Waterloo in Ontario, published last month by the journal Psychological Science, indicate men are just as willing as women to apologize if they think they've done something wrong. Men just have a different idea of what defines "something wrong."

Link to full article: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702304410504575560093884004442.html

 
tasches

Asked by tasches at 6:32 PM on Oct. 19, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (12)
  • Do men really apologize?
    bjojola

    Answer by bjojola at 6:45 PM on Oct. 19, 2010

  • Yes we do
    Moms_Angels1960

    Answer by Moms_Angels1960 at 6:34 PM on Oct. 19, 2010

  • I don't know what it's like in general, but I only apologize if I truly believe I did something worth apologizing for. Which does happen, but I don't apologize for anything just to "keep the peace". My fiance is actually pretty good at apologizing whenever he does something wrong. I don't really see it as a male/female issue, just a human issue. Some people will never admit to being wrong, and some people apologize for breathing...
    Anouck

    Answer by Anouck at 6:35 PM on Oct. 19, 2010

  • Of coarse, it would hurt a man's ego to admit he was wrong and apologize.
    mommy_of_two388

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 6:55 PM on Oct. 19, 2010

  • Oh I read about this study..

    My conclusion..

    Women apologize more often than men. But only beacuse they view themselves as being in the "wrong" more than men do.. It isn't about the apologizing as much as it about which group actually realizes, accepts, and admits when they are in the wrong.

    My husband actually agreed with me.. LOL.. I asked him "Who apologizes more.. me or you?" He looked at me and said " You apologize more than I do. But that's because I don't (even when I am) see myself as being in the "wrong" as often as you do "...

    Just my thoughts.
    pixie_trix

    Answer by pixie_trix at 6:57 PM on Oct. 19, 2010

  • Yes I always apologize and my husband rarely does. But my sons know how to say sorry.
    Deb79

    Answer by Deb79 at 10:24 PM on Oct. 19, 2010

  • I do think that women apologize more than men. I think it also has a lot to do with how you are brought up. Men just don't like to admit when they are wrong. It's all ego. We as parents should let our children know that it is okay to apologize to people. Not only does it make us feel better, it also helps the other person as well.
    amessageofhope

    Answer by amessageofhope at 1:02 AM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • i have a hard time saying i am sorry. my husband says it way more than me. lol
    anxious1stimer

    Answer by anxious1stimer at 6:34 PM on Oct. 19, 2010

  • of course they do
    staceynoel

    Answer by staceynoel at 6:52 PM on Oct. 19, 2010

  • Most women do.
    arenad

    Answer by arenad at 7:57 PM on Oct. 19, 2010

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