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I have my fathers jeans.. which off course is life but something i just wish i could control. we are trying to stop our 2 1/2 year old son has this thing going .. where he wants it his way.. or he starts having horrible fits (crying, ) and i will ask him if he wants to do something he needs to get up and do it so he can do that and he just gets worse.. is it because i'm yelling back? He has this thing where he has to get his way.. do i just let him cry and let him get it out.. and when he is ready then try to talk to him?

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Mrs.Ro

Asked by Mrs.Ro at 8:59 AM on Oct. 20, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • At his age, introduce time-outs. If he wants to scream the whole time, let him, but he has to be in a certain place for two minutes. (since he's two.) Eventually he will decide it's no fun to get stuck there for two minutes, and he'll stop throwing the tantrums.

    Redirection works well too. Instead of what he wants to do, or what he doesn't want to do, offer a third option, maybe a cartoon on tv, or a game he likes. GL!
    BisketLiss

    Answer by BisketLiss at 9:02 AM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • And yes, he's probably reacting to your yelling at him. Try to be calm when you react to his behavior, even if you're seething mad. GL!
    BisketLiss

    Answer by BisketLiss at 9:04 AM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • Oh you meant GENES...not jeans...like Levi's. I was so confused at first lol
    Zoeyis

    Answer by Zoeyis at 9:04 AM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • yes, you let him throw his tantrum, after a few times of not getting his way he will start to learn. Always make him ask for things that he wants, dont let him demand them. dont yell back at him because then he thinks that it is appropriate behavior for him to do. Unfortunately he is at the age where they test you to see what they can get away with and it will only get worse for a little while before he learns that you will not let him have his way. good luck momma!
    foxracing43701

    Answer by foxracing43701 at 9:04 AM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • YES! Even when you yell at your kids when they cry, they realize that crying gets them some kind of attention. I know it's hard, but definitely let him cry it out & talk about it after.
    samurai_chica

    Answer by samurai_chica at 9:06 AM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • Your question is rather vague, but it sounds like you've reached a milestone in Jr.'s development. He is becoming his own person, and developing his own opinions! That is actually a GOOD thing! Unfortunately, you need to realize that what he is engaging you in is an argument - and no one wins those if there are two opposing points of view. YOu need to learn and subsequently teach him to negotiate. And yes, yelling is never good. That is reserved for emergencies when he is in harms way. If he doesn't want to do what you are asking him to, ask him what he would like to do and come to a "compromise". Now, he's only 3 - so you h ave the advantage of stacking the deck to only include appropriate alternatives. (He wants to play with the TV remote - offer him a toy one instead...you get the idea...)Let him be who he is - but steer him in the right direction in peace.
    mommyx9

    Answer by mommyx9 at 9:12 AM on Oct. 20, 2010

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