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If you found out that you were meant to be an abortion, but against your mothers will she did not get one... how would that make you feel?

[ANON to stop any bashing in my chatter box and PM.]


Asked by Anonymous at 3:56 PM on Oct. 20, 2010 in Parenting Debate

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Answers (25)
  • tnm, SHE WANTED the abortion... but no-one would allow her to go (underage maybe or some other reasoning)... she didn't WANT to give you life.

    How would you feel?

    ah, i read it wrong. it would depend on how she treated me as a child and now in adulthood. if she has always thought of me as a mistake that should have never been, i would feel very hurt and sad, almost guilty in a way, like i shouldn't be here. but if she grew to love me in pregnancy or infancy or whatever, then i guess i stick to my first answer. in that case, the fact that she didn't want me wouldn't matter, because she wants me now. i would hope she wouldn't have any resentment toward me.

    Answer by tnm786 at 4:09 PM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • i wouldn't base my opinion of her on wanting to have an abortion i would consider what kind of parent she actually was

    Answer by figaro8895 at 4:13 PM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • I'd be thankful to whoever kept her from aborting me. It would make me look at her differently, unless over time she realized that I was a blessing.

    Answer by LovingSAHMommy at 4:13 PM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • happy that she loved me enough to give me life.

    Answer by tnm786 at 3:58 PM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • Surprised, guilty, sad, confused.

    Answer by UpSheRises at 3:58 PM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • I would probably feel like crap abo8ut it. What I did about it would depend on the relationship is now and how the information came to me.

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 3:59 PM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • depending on how she treated me throughout life, if she treated me like she truly wished they'd have let her kill me then yeah i'd be PISSED, but if she treated me like she's glad they wouldn't let her kill me then I'd be forgiving and if she felt open enough i'd go into the question part of .. why did she want to kill me and whatever


    Answer by pinkrayn at 4:01 PM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • my step-son is that..... his mom wanted to abort him, but his dad said he couldn't go thru with another abortion, she was 35 or 36 and he was 18 or 19, and she had already aborted 2 of his babies. Anyways, I don't think it would change their relationship if SS knew.... she over indulges him now, since the divorce, so he's perfectly with her.

    Answer by TXColter at 4:06 PM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • I would feel like crap. Also, my mother thought about abortion with me but my grandparents talked her out of it. I do not have a speaking relationship with my parents b/c they have treated me like crap all my life. I am happy I am here...but my childhood was far from ideal.

    Answer by Mom2Just1 at 4:12 PM on Oct. 20, 2010

  • That depends on how she raised me. If she was affectionate, caring, loving, and showed that she really enjoys having me then I wouldn't feel any different. If I had a distance from her and she was cold or unloving then it'd make sense. I think I'd be a little curious as to how she really felt about me, but if she raised me well then I'd have a hard time changing my feelings towards her.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 4:43 PM on Oct. 20, 2010