Oh, man. That first heart break is really the worst. I think there are really only two ways to help. First is just talking about it, letting them talk about their feelings, but WITHOUT trying to convince them that everything will be fine and there are other fish in the sea, etc, etc. At that age it just feels like the world is ending and no one will ever be that great for you, etc. Teens don't have the experience we adults have to know that there will be other boyfriends/girlfriends and trying to convince them will just make them think you don't understand. I think you just have to let them be sad and talk it thru. The other thing is to distract, distract, disctract. Now is the time for mother/daughter shopping days or father/son basketball games, going out bowling or watching movies together- anything to get them to stop pining away. Good luck. It's such a tough time for a teen.
at 2:26 PM on Oct. 21, 2010