I spanked, but felt too bad afterwards. I've used the timeout approach, but still felt bad. She told daddy that mommy is mean sometimes, but I'm really just disciplining. I really don't want her to be mean, so when I catch her being mean, I tell her and it looks like I hurt her feelings. How can I tell her and show her that being mean is not cool when it looks like I'm being mean to her? I don't want her to grow up as a mean girl. she's only four by the way.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:36 PM on Oct. 21, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by Works4Mom.com at 9:50 PM on Oct. 21, 2010
Answer by JourneyToANewMe at 10:08 PM on Oct. 21, 2010
Answer by lizardgirl at 10:19 PM on Oct. 21, 2010
Answer by lizardgirl at 10:25 PM on Oct. 21, 2010
My daughter is 4 and I am learning what a manipulator she really is lol. By that I mean she will tell me I have broken her heart when she gets into trouble or that daddy scares her when he yells. The truth is, she is trying to see what she can get away with and if she can make us feel guilty for getting after her. I struggle with the guilt thing too, but I am learning that it's ok for her to be mad at me for a while if it means that she learned something. Stick to your guns and try to remember your role as a mom is to raise her to be a responsible person who will be able to follow rules and make it in in the real world. If you are discipling out of love, its ok for her to have hurt feelings. She will thank you later in life for caring enough to discipline her. Remember, you are her mom first, friend second. Sometimes the friend part has to go away for a while.
Answer by lovebugs_mom at 1:03 AM on Oct. 22, 2010