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If you knew you only had ten years left to live, and never had children, would you try to have a child before you passed away?

 
icn_mom

Asked by icn_mom at 9:10 AM on Oct. 22, 2010 in Parenting Debate

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  • Nope - but I might do some fostering of older kids since they can be hard to place.
    MeggieSwan

    Answer by MeggieSwan at 9:21 AM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • Hard question.. But I would think probably not.. you will be leaving a child behind at the age where they will be confused and extremely upset. So probably not the best ida.
    Weldo1983

    Answer by Weldo1983 at 9:14 AM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • i really don't know. i do have kids and my biggest fear is leaving them behind without a mother. but would i want to miss out on all the joys of motherhood? doubtful. i probably would still have a baby, but knowing my life would end in 10 years i would set up a definite plan for my child to be taken care of once i'm gone.
    tnm786

    Answer by tnm786 at 9:14 AM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • If I knew no but we almost never know our fate I had a child at 41 do I regret it absolutely NOT she is the best thing that has happened to my husband and myself even though we have 5 grown children. We have time for her now we didn't have time for our other kids working and growing up ourselves.My husband said when he was raising his 3 from a previous relationship that he never had much time for them. While I think I did a really good job being a married single parent my ex was always doing other things so I raised them alone being married I love being a Mom more now then ever.
    Moms_Angels1960

    Answer by Moms_Angels1960 at 9:15 AM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • No, it's not fair for a 10 year old to lose a parent. That's why I don't understand 60 yo women trying to have kids.
    Shanna84

    Answer by Shanna84 at 9:12 AM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • No, it would not be fair to leave a child motherless.
    older

    Answer by older at 9:12 AM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • I agree w/ Shanna84.
    xxMasonsMommaxx

    Answer by xxMasonsMommaxx at 9:12 AM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • probably not. I would hate for my 10 year old child to have to go through the pain and loss of losing his/her mother at such a young age. they are about to go into that hard tween age where they really need a mom around. So no, to me it would be kind of selfish.
    cassie_kellison

    Answer by cassie_kellison at 9:13 AM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • hell no, how selfish
    shay1130

    Answer by shay1130 at 9:14 AM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • You know OP, we could all POSSIBLY die at any time, although I think it would be selfish if it was a certainty, one could always make arrangements for their well being.
    older

    Answer by older at 9:24 AM on Oct. 22, 2010