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going for custody lawyer meeting... questions to ask?

I have a meeting with an attorney today for custody of my 4 yr old son. His father has been in his life however has had some short time absences because of his poor decisions. His new girlfriend has forced him to file for either shared parenting/full custody, he did this after i filed for child support... (which he has appealed and wont be seen again until dec.. ugh) so he has not financially even supported son since feb when he moved out. i want him removed completely from son's life... what questions should i ask the attorney today?? i have a list of a few questions already, but i know many more are out there that i am not thinking of and would like some impact when i go in and would appreciate anything....

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:05 AM on Oct. 22, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Custody issues are no walk in the park...believe me, I know. The most important thing here is to ALWAYS REMEMBER WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR SON! Custody and Child Support ARE TWO SEPARATE things and are treated as such. No child support does NOT mean no visitation! Keep this in mind because you can be at fault for violating visitation. Unless he has done bad things then you cannot prevent him from visitation. How is your son when he sees his father? Is he happy? Are there things of concern? You can be very detailed with how you WOULD LIKE visitation to be. BE VERY SPECIFIC about dates and times of pick up/drop off. If these are not adheared to then he can be at fault and you will have it all documented through a court order. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. Unfortunately you will have the painful task of documenting everything. This way you can keep a paper trail. Does your son have problems when he comes back from a visitation

    Answer by NoDramaMamma at 3:28 PM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • etc. Also, if he is not consistant in picking up your son, then you can show that it is not in the best interest to see him. This causes emotional issues for your child and that can be tough to deal with and it is hard on the little ones to understand or express how this affects them. ALWAYS refer to your child as OUR SON, and speak about the positive things about your son and what you do at home that he is happy and growing in a healthy environment. Also suggest that you all go to a coparenting class. These are positive things and not only will the court be pleased with this, but you will be showing that you are putting your son's best interest forward and not "bickering" with the other parent which just throws your son in the middle. Not good. GOOD LUCK!

    Answer by NoDramaMamma at 3:32 PM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • Unless you can "prove" him to be a really bad father without verbal accusations (they must be legally admissable in court as evidence/court records, prison/jail, arrests, warrents etd...) you can not remove a father from a childs life!

    Answer by 4_28_bbboy at 5:06 PM on Oct. 22, 2010

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