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going for custody lawyer meeting... questions to ask?

I have a meeting with an attorney today for custody of my 4 yr old son. His father has been in his life however has had some short time absences because of his poor decisions. His new girlfriend has forced him to file for either shared parenting/full custody, he did this after i filed for child support... (which he has appealed and wont be seen again until dec.. ugh) so he has not financially even supported son since feb when he moved out. i want him removed completely from son's life... what questions should i ask the attorney today?? i have a list of a few questions already, but i know many more are out there that i am not thinking of and would like some impact when i go in and would appreciate anything....

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:14 AM on Oct. 22, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • You aren't going to be able to completely remove him from your sons life. In order to be an effective custodial parent, you need to at least give the judge the appearance that you are encouraging your son to have a healthy relationship with his father. Obviously, I don't know anything other than what you have posted above, but I would request joint legal custody with you being the tiebreaker. If shared parenting is not an option for you, you need to come up with a parenting plan that is fair to BD. Leave your emotions regarding BD out of it, and do what is best for your son. On what grounds did he appeal the CS? If you are awarded custody, he will most likely have to pay back from the day you filed.

    Answer by mrsbrown1 at 11:27 AM on Oct. 22, 2010

  • Again don't confuse "joint legal custody" with "joint custody", the first is not shared custody, except for legal decisions, the second is a shared arrangment, where the child stays half the time with the father, and the other half with the Mother..... Please listen to your attorney, there's so much wrong information out there.

    Answer by MrsLeftlane at 11:36 AM on Oct. 22, 2010

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