I need help about my 25 year old son. I am in the beginning stages of having a relationship with someone I really like. My 25 year old son makes snide remarks about him whenever I talk about my friend. My son watched me suffer through an abusive relationship. This is the first time in 7 years that there is someone I really like. My son doesn't know him. I have tried to get my son to stop with his comments so has his wife. I know my son is worried about me getting hurt. I tell him that he needs to back off but he is really protective. How can I get hire to understand?Answer Question
Answer by tootoobusy at 7:06 AM on Oct. 23, 2010
I know this is hard but put on a kind of translator and hear the snark as him being protective,I am not saying he is correct to be making these comments but it will be less painful if you understand the reason behind these immature comments.You have his wife on your side and if this guy is all that you hope he is then it will fade..In a way we had something similar involving my 26 yr old son and 20 yr old daughter.She was a sr when she started dating her boy friend also a sr.My son was stationed in Anchorage then deployed and had never met the boyfriend.Nothing but snarky comments.When he came back he spent some time at home and 5 days at his sis college and met and spent time with boy friend...now he thinks he is a great guy...almost good enough for his little sister LOL.My daughter has never been in an abusive relationship.Just a immaturely shown protectiveness in both young men.
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