I hear mom's tell their children "If you behave, I'll buy you an ice cream, or give money, and toys."
Are we setting them up to expect it when they get older?
My sister bribed her girls. Now they are so spoiled and expect that eveyone owes them something.... What do you think?
Answer by anikahaynes1 at 2:28 AM on Oct. 23, 2010
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Answer by chica679 at 11:41 AM on Oct. 23, 2010
I think a lot of parents do this. We don't normally reward our kids for doing stuff. We don't even offer an allowance for doing things around the house because I sure don't get paid to do dishes and laundry so why should they? It's part of being the household to keep it clean.
We do, occasionally, give them a treat if they've been super helpful but they are taught to NOT expect that. It's always a surprise for helping out and is usually totally random.
I will say I was at the store yesterday with my 4yo and she kept throwing a fit because she was lagging behind and messing with the baby. I wanted to get a donut but felt she wasn't behaving enough to get one so I told her if she behaved the rest of the trip she could have one. That was probably the 1st time I've ever said anything like that to my kids and my oldest is 10.
Answer by justanotherjen at 11:56 AM on Oct. 23, 2010
I will not reward my son with "stuff" for good behavior. He is to assist us around the house because he is a member of our family and lives in our home. NEVER do I use food as a reward. How unhealthy. Instead I notice he cleaned his plate or did a good job eating and I say very brightly, "Let's go outside to play." Not a bribe, not a good job, not a reward for doing what we expected him to do. Yes we do treats every once in a rare while. But it is unexpected and just because. Eventually he will get an allowance for doing extra chores around the home when he is older. Not for the typical things that we expect him to do every day. An allowance will give him the opportunity to manage money and experience what it also means to miss out on a toy or opportunity due to no money. But mostly we are so busy riding bikes, hiking, and doing family activities there is no room for more "stuff."
Answer by frogdawg at 2:57 PM on Oct. 23, 2010
Answer by mamallamaof2 at 4:07 PM on Oct. 23, 2010