My MIL and SIL live 3 1/2 hours away. They never come to visit and we are always the ones who visit them. Last week they called and told my husband they would be staying in a town 1 hour away from us and asked us to visit. Of course, we did. Well, we found out that they just didn't have anything better to do this weekend so they picked this town to stay in. Really? They couldn't drive 1 more hour so we wouldn't have to drag our kids out after my husband worked all night and day? I feel like we are the ones that are trying so hard to give our kids and their grandma a relationship. I feel that this is not my responsibility. I mean, I can only do so much and she has to maintain it, right? I want to give up and make her make a little effort. Would this be wrong?
Answer by _Tam_ at 12:46 AM on Oct. 24, 2010
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Answer by san78 at 7:49 AM on Oct. 23, 2010
I agree that the traveling should be shared, however, I also think that you have spent so much time trying to make them happy by doing what they want, that they expect it from you. You need to sit down and talk to them about it. Let them know that the traveling is really hard for you guys and ask if they could come and visit you sometime. You would be surprised how many conflicts can be resolved if you just sit down and talk openly about it. They may not realize how much trouble it is for you travel so far.
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