You said the key words, "till we give in!" That's why she screams and whines, because she knows you'll cave. She knows how to get what she wants! I agree, you have to get a schedule. If you have one get stern about it. Do special time or cuddling and then it's bed time, no questions asked. It'll be crazy for the first week because she'll think you're going to cave so she'll really throw a tantrum if you don't, but once she sees you are serious things will calm down. My son still comes into our room sometimes, we just send him back to his bed. He never screamed. He would cry....which was sad, but he learned his bed was for him and our bed was for us. He doesn't cry anymore and things have been great! About neighbors hearing, if they have kids they should understand and if you curb this problem now then they only have to hear for a few more days. Hope this helps....Good luck!
at 12:18 PM on Jun. 19, 2008