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I want another baby but...

My DH doesn't. He says we aren't ready financially. But it's always been a dream to have 3, and I have that motherly instinct to have more. What should I do?

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Ihavehope9

Asked by Ihavehope9 at 7:37 PM on Oct. 23, 2010 in Pregnancy

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  • There is not really anything you can do just keep an open discussion and maybe he is coming from a responsible spot.
    Melbornj

    Answer by Melbornj at 7:39 PM on Oct. 23, 2010

  • Ask him to define "financially ready."
    Ask him how your family can work on getting there.
    Ask him if you had that money right now, would it be Time?

    Did you already have "enough" money to conceive & have the other 2 babies?
    doulala

    Answer by doulala at 7:41 PM on Oct. 23, 2010

  • I'd say wait until you're financially ready. I have two kiddies and we've been struggling for years. It sucks having to put your kids through something like that.
    SinaiJ

    Answer by SinaiJ at 8:22 PM on Oct. 23, 2010

  • He said if we had the money we would. The first two weren't planned, and we've managed to take care of them just fine.
    Ihavehope9

    Comment by Ihavehope9 (original poster) at 9:31 PM on Oct. 23, 2010

  • If you wait until everything is perfect, you'll never really be ready. Kids who grow up in "harder" circumstances are often more mature and well-rounded as adults. They learn early on to deal with stress and to cope with whatever life throws at you. As long as they know they're loved and their basic needs are met, they'll be fine. If financially ready means upholding a certain lifestyle, aren't kids more important? Money, things, jobs, etc. don't go with you after this life. Families can be forever. Relationships are eternal. Maybe your husband is feeling stressed. Keep the discussion open, but a woman's intuition is not something to be taken lightly.
    Reenieredhead

    Answer by Reenieredhead at 11:23 PM on Oct. 23, 2010

  • ask him how he defines financially ready and then work towards what he thinks you should have before having another baby
    lovebunny82709

    Answer by lovebunny82709 at 4:28 AM on Oct. 24, 2010

  • Thanks ladies! I'm definitely taking in all of your advice!
    Ihavehope9

    Comment by Ihavehope9 (original poster) at 12:07 PM on Oct. 24, 2010

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