Do you reward your children for good grades or good behaivor- or do you say they should do this no matter what? How do you differentiate between what is expected and what should be rewarded?
My children make their beds, clean their rooms, clean up before and after dinner and breakfast daily- or they owe us a quarter (they are 5, 6, and 9).
Yesterday, my 6 yo was being lazy at his soccer game and I told him that he better get in there and do his best or he would have a consequence- he then scored 4 goals in 6 minutes. Afterwards, he was SO proud, but then he starts talking about what he DESERVES for doing that- and I said, like what?, thinking he wanted ice cream. He says- I don't know, like a nintendo DS or a skateboard, bc I did AWESOME mommy. What? I told him he did an wonderful job and I was very proud, but that doing his best was what he should always do.
Answer by older at 9:03 AM on Oct. 24, 2010
Answer by specialwingz at 9:06 AM on Oct. 24, 2010
I have never believed in rewards or allowances. Getting good grade/going to school is something they are suppose to do. Chore or cleaning the house and yard is part of being a family that live in the same house. The adults of the house do not get allowances or rewardsfor things. The kids of the house should not either. Perks should not be attacked to things they do.
But on the other hand I do believe in not giving a child something because he/she was bad or did not do what they where suppose to do.
Answer by louise2 at 9:08 AM on Oct. 24, 2010
Answer by specialwingz at 9:34 AM on Oct. 24, 2010
I think there are simply things in life you do because they are the right thing to do....... they should not be rewarded and children should not be bribed into doing these things.
A reward would be for something above and beyond what is expected.
Bribes are only useful in the short term and do not teach anything long lasting. Yes, in a pinch they can help a parent... but there is no long term benefit from a bribe.
Answer by sahlady at 9:50 AM on Oct. 24, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:12 AM on Oct. 24, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:18 AM on Oct. 24, 2010
Rewards should be given for going above and beyond the expectation. Bribes are given just for meeting the minimum standard. So...
If you're good in the grocery story I'll buy you a treat= bribe. Kids should just be expected to behave while shopping.
You got an A+ on your term paper after spending weeks on it so you can go to a movie with your friend= reward. If a child puts in the effort to go beyond what's required they can earn a reward.
Answer by maxswolfsuit at 1:09 PM on Oct. 24, 2010
Answer by Pnukey at 5:54 PM on Oct. 24, 2010
Answer by tinker16233 at 8:24 PM on Oct. 24, 2010