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My daughter hates wearing pants!

Hi i'm having a dilemma with my daughter. I don't know whether i'm doing the right thing or that i'm harming her. Like I said my daughter hates pants. If she had to choose between time-out and pants, she'd stay in time-out all day. Many times i have to fight with her and force her to put them on. I feel utterly terrible doing it, but i don't have that many dresses for her to wear. Please someone, give me some advice! We are living with someone who keeps her windows open 24/7 and we don't want neighbors asking ?'s because she's having temper tantrums, because she doesn't want to get dressed.

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hanlon_clan_mom

Asked by hanlon_clan_mom at 12:40 PM on Oct. 24, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • My daughter didn't like wearing any kind of denim and it was a struggle to get her even to consider wearing it. I would allow her to wear dresses or skirts with leaggings which are quite fashionable for young girls. It's somewhat of a compromise. As far as having the windows open, maybe you can close it part way but still have it open for fresh air since it's not quite winter yet and the days at least here are still bouncing back and forth between the temperature changes.
    CafeMochaMom1

    Answer by CafeMochaMom1 at 12:48 PM on Oct. 24, 2010

  • Buy her some more dresses.
    Syphon

    Answer by Syphon at 12:49 PM on Oct. 24, 2010

  • Capris
    arenad

    Answer by arenad at 12:51 PM on Oct. 24, 2010

  • See if she will wear leggings or thick tights, if she will then maybe it is the pants' material that she doesn't like.
    kraziandkoul

    Answer by kraziandkoul at 12:55 PM on Oct. 24, 2010

  • I hated wearing pants when I was younger and still to this day HATE PANTS. I think you should just buy more shorts or skirts or dresses. Maybe shes a girly girl? (I'm no but still HATE PANTS)

    Go to used childrens stores, walmart, Kolhs(they have good deals usually), or craigslist.... Good luck.
    kiansmom0423

    Answer by kiansmom0423 at 12:56 PM on Oct. 24, 2010

  • Hit your local Goodwill, Salvation Army or other thrift shop and get her some cheap dresses. Also check on Craigslist.
    twinsplus2more

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 1:05 PM on Oct. 24, 2010

  • Since I have a boy, dresses aren't an option. What I've done instead is compromise. If we're home and don't have company, he can refuse pants or clothes all together, but if we're out or have people over he needs to keep his pants/undies/shirt on.

    It took a couple of days for him to get the new set up, but we've been doing this for the last year at least and have only had maybe two or three tantrums over clothing.
    flitpixie

    Answer by flitpixie at 1:24 PM on Oct. 24, 2010

  • ps: I do have roommates (sort of) so since they're here so often, he can be pantless but still has to wear undies.
    flitpixie

    Answer by flitpixie at 1:26 PM on Oct. 24, 2010

  • does she hate the material? some kids are really sensitive to textures. when I was a kid I would just die if there were "bumps" in my socks when my shoes went on. actually me and my brother were both like that. I would try different materials. or just go with dresses and skirts. hopefully she will be okay with leggings under the dresses for winter.

    have you tried rewarding her for wearing pants/getting dressed?

    if she is able to tell you, i would ask her WHY she hates them. maybe her answer will be helpful

    good luck!
    ElsaSalsaaa

    Answer by ElsaSalsaaa at 1:28 PM on Oct. 24, 2010

  • Well there are rare occasions when there's certain pants she will wear, but there's times like today when she flat out won't wear them at all. Sometimes when it's not about pants its about socks and shoes.
    hanlon_clan_mom

    Comment by hanlon_clan_mom (original poster) at 1:41 PM on Oct. 24, 2010

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