I have a 13 mo old too and although he pitches a fit when things don't go his way, I don't really think of it as a tantrum at this age (that is more of a 2-3y o thing). I think at this age they just don't know how to deal with not getting what they want or having things taken away- just the frustration of not understanding and not knowing how to handle their emotions. They also have a hard time transitioning when the fun stops. What I do (and it really paid off after doing this with my older dd) is TALK TALK TALK!! Tell them everything- what you are doing, why, what you think they are feeling. All the talking will slowly pay off and they start to understand WAY more than you can imagine. My son is already understanding "we don't eat that, its not food" after me saying it for a few weeks before I take things away. It may seem tedious but it will pay off. AS for the bedtime thing, you might have to try cio.
at 12:30 AM on Oct. 25, 2010