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Okay, let's try it the other way round. Your partner cheated on you. Do you think he's upset about what he has done, or because he got caught?


Asked by BeachMom81 at 5:15 PM on Oct. 25, 2010 in Relationships

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  • I think men can be upset with themselves about cheating. I remember when my brother cheated & the love of his life left his ass. He was miserable, he was so extremely upset with the stupid decisions he had made to cheat. He felt like a loser & was very angry & disgusted in himself. At least he learned a huge lesson. He has never cheated aver again.

    But, then there are those guys who are upset because they got caught. Some men feel no guilt for their actions and get upset that they got in trouble. It's different for every man & every situation. If it was my husband, i know for a fact that he would be upset with what he did. Not everybody feels good after cheating. Some people feel like crap about what they did.

    Answer by samurai_chica at 5:19 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • If he doesn't confess on his own, he's just sorry he got caught.... But again, I'm having a hard time with this, since I honestly don't believe my fiance would EVER cheat on me. He knows if he does, he's out the door. No second chances.

    Answer by Anouck at 5:18 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • I agree with "if they confess, they are upset with their actions, if they get caught they are upset they got caught"

    Answer by samurai_chica at 5:21 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • Sorry he got caught. Hard to say though, after they cheat how can you believe what they say.

    Answer by Nanixh at 5:18 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • My husband did cheat on me. He had a one night stand a little over 16 years ago.

    He felt bad for what he had done. I did not catch him or anything like that. He came home and confessed the night he did it.

    Answer by pixie_trix at 5:16 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • Sorry that he got caught

    Answer by nicjon at 5:16 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • if they confess then they may be sorry or then again just afraid the word will get out.

    Answer by shay1130 at 5:22 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • He was upset because he got caught. He never apologized and never acted remorseful. HER DH was the one that told me, not mine. That is why he is now an XH.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 5:30 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • Mine was more upset about getting caught out. Especially when he found I knew when I told him I had an appt with a lawyer.

    Fool me once, shame on you, fool me THREE times (that I know about), shame on me!

    Answer by geminilove at 5:39 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • My DH cheated on me -- one night stand about a year into our marriage. I did not know for four years. He finally broke down and confessed. I had no clue, absolutely no suspicions. I know he felt very guilty because those four years were awful. After he confessed you could just tell a giant weight had lifted off of him. He actually smiles and laughs now. Our relationship is a lot better now although I still struggle with it sometimes.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:46 PM on Oct. 25, 2010