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Is your parenting different now that your child is here?

Lets face it, When we see those two red lines our minds go a million miles an hour and we tell ourselves all the things we're gonna do different. What we're gonna let our kids do and not do. I remember saying "my kids will never watch TV or eat cookies and junk food" but now that my son is here sometimes the tv helps me keep him occupied while I get things done around the house although he doesnt watch it half the time. And a cookie here and there never hurt anyone. Anything you said you were or weren't going to do with your kids and did you follow through?

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krisholl2285

Asked by krisholl2285 at 10:34 PM on Oct. 25, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • No I am still Authoritative and as far as I can see I always will be. :)
    Mama2BabyTaurus

    Answer by Mama2BabyTaurus at 10:34 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • Absolutely. I always said I'd never co-sleep and I'd breastfeed no more than a year... then I learned all about attachment parenting and realized my natural parenting style gravitates heavily towards this style, so after DD was about 9 or 10 months old she slept in the bed with me until she turned 2. I loved every second and wouldn't change a thing. I did try to put her in her crib a few times but she woke EVERY TIME as I was laying her down. Also DH worked nights and I just felt safer with her right next to me - (well separated with a pillow). I felt I could protect her better. I exclusively BF'd until she was 5 mo and BOY was she ready for solids! I continued to BF for most of her feedings thru the day until 1 yr, when I began the "don't offer don't refuse" weaning method... and when I got pregnant shortly after she turned 2 she was down to just a night time nursing, which she easily weaned from with no problems.
    MamaLisa1976

    Answer by MamaLisa1976 at 10:43 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • Of course. I am definately not the parent that I said I was going to be, but the kids are still young. I can still change things if I feel there is a change needed. I try to impliment some things that I believed before the kids were born, but once they got here I went with the flow. They're happy, loving, full of energy kids and so I don't feel that my ideal parenting would've changed much. The only thing it might've changed was punishments, yelling, and maybe a more smoothly run household. We're good though. Basically the mom I wanted to be was 100% playing with the kids, no yelling, always active kind of parenting. And I try not to yell, I do play with my kids alot but there's housework that needs to be done too, and we aren't as active as we could be. Like I said though, they're still young, so anything that I think should be changed will be changed.
    JazzlikeMraz

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 10:54 PM on Oct. 25, 2010

  • Yes, a lot different than I had planned.
    Luisa621

    Answer by Luisa621 at 12:24 AM on Oct. 26, 2010

  • I would say yes and no.
    Before DD was born, I said she wouldnt watch TV until she was 2. And she does watch TV sometimes, but I dont use it as a babysitter. She loves to watch Snow White before bed. So we sit together and watch and sing.
    Also, I said I would be strict, and let her cry it out.. but for the first months, I couldnt. But now that she is almost 17 months I can say I did let her cry it out, and she is on a schedule, and I am somewhat strict about bad behavior.
    Lastly, junk food. I said I didnt want her having junk food for at least a year after she was born. And I accomplished that :) And even now, she never eats junk food when she is home or with her father or me. BUT I know that when she goes to my inlaws, she will eat some junk food. But there is a limit, and if needed, I will say something
    For the most part, I am pretty much how I said I would be, I just know my some arent the same way, and thats ok too.
    Mme.Langley

    Answer by Mme.Langley at 12:28 AM on Oct. 26, 2010

  • No, I am still pretty strict, the way I thought I would be
    mom2queenie2004

    Answer by mom2queenie2004 at 11:32 AM on Oct. 29, 2010

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