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2yr old and temper tantrums going to the extreme what to do

i have a two year old that when he gets mad or frusterated he will clench his fists scream like his teeth are clenched together shakes and then trys to bite or hit me or my husband... we have done time outs, ignoring, spankings, walk him in his room but it seems to het worse evertime.. does anyone have a idea how to help him express his frustration and anger another way??? we are getting desperate we dont need him to go after his 7 month old brother or anyone else... normally he is a happy go lucky kid but since my husbands accident in march and our move in may i have notice it more often... HELP!!!!!!

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Asked by Levink_08 at 8:06 PM on Oct. 26, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • make him kneel in the corner and ignore him for 15 minute.

    Answer by vukenlee at 8:24 PM on Oct. 26, 2010

  • This is an attention-seeking behavior. It's good that you have recognized that there is a correlation between the behavior and major changes in your life. You need to choose ONE method of dealing with these tantrums, and stick to it. I would suggest either putting him somewhere quiet and safe and telling him he can come out when he's calm. (Don't close him in a room though, somewhere where you are close by) Or simply stay by his side and wait it out. Do not give him eye contact during the tantrums, and only interact with him once he is calm or if he is harming himself.

    THEN make sure you have a good daily routine, let him know 2-3 minutes ahead of time if you're going to be transitioning activities ("we're going to turn the TV off in 2 minutes and then go eat lunch"). And make sure he is getting a lot of one on one time. Sibling rivalry will also start to flare up once baby is mobile/learning to walk.

    Answer by Its.Me.T. at 8:29 PM on Oct. 26, 2010

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