I admit it, I don't look as good as I did 10 years ago :) I'm not really overweight, but I'm not thin. I have cellulite on my backside and thighs, I have a post-baby wrinkly belly, and let's just say my boobs are scary. I have gone up and down in weight so much during and after pregnancies, and gone up and down in breast size from the weight and nursing that they are just deflated and gross.
My SO is not my children's father, so he didn't help create this body ; ) He loves me for me, and he is attracted to me. Here's my problem, I hate being naked in front of him. I hate him seeing me without make-up, I don't want him to touch me because I feel disgusting. I do let him touch me, we have a great sex life, but it would be SO MUCH better if I felt better about myself. How do I do this? How do I get past all this? He is attracted to me, how do I let go and accept that?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:13 PM on Oct. 27, 2010 in Relationships
What you are stating is what most women feel about their bodies - even younger women who have nice figures. We compare ourselves to supermodels and movie stars. We see those women so much that we begin to think that anything less than that is ugly. I've never had a good feeling about my body - even when I was 18. And I was 105 lbs. and I'm 116 lbs. now. I don't let my husband see me nude either and don't make love with the light on. I know that it is my problem - but it's been with me for years. It's like the other women say here - you have to learn to love yourself and see yourself as perfect the way you are. It's all in your attitude and self-perception. If you believe you are beautiful - you are. (I'm working on it!)
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Answer by wildflowers25 at 1:20 PM on Oct. 27, 2010
You need to feel comfortable in your own skin and trust that husband loves you, because beauty is fleeting. Sooner or later the ravages of time catch up to every single one of us, but it is the love and the bond between you that keeps you beautiful. I plan on living out the rest of my natural life with my husband. I'm pretty sure that I'm going to look a lot different when I'm in my 70's and 80's but I'm also sure that my husband will still see his 24 year old bride.
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