My sister is law is wonderful and has done everything by the book. Went to collage, got her PHD, married her HS sweetheart, and then got pregnant for the first time. Unfortunately she had a miscarriage at 16 weeks. My heart broke for her. This was in July.
I found out I was pregnant a week ago and I am not sure when to tell her or how to go about it.
We live in different states (both away from our hometown) and rarely talk on the phone because of our schedules, but when are are in town at the same time we get along really well and hang out a lot. (We are only a year apart in age)
Telling my MIL was hard because she is still mourning for her daughters loss. So just telling her was hard enough.
extra info: We have been married around the same amount of time. I have a daughter from a previous relationship who is 11 and I also have a 4 year old with my husband (her brother) and she has no children.
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Answer by But_Mommie at 3:59 PM on Oct. 28, 2010
Make sure she is among the first to know, and since you've told your MIL you should do it soon. Call her personally and tell her, and let her know you understand that she is still dealing with her own loss and you hate that your happiness may add to her sadness. I am saying this because I have been in a very similar position as your SIL is in now. I was undergoing fertility treatments for a long time and miscarried. My sister who already had 3 children got pregnant and no one told me until she was 4 months along. I would have been upset however I'd found out, but finding out that she had been pregnant for months and everyone except me knew was horrible. The fact that my sister didn't tell me, that I had to find out from someone else, was also very hurtful. Yes, your SIL will be sad, but please tell her...tell her gently, but do tell her. Also, congratulations!
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 4:00 PM on Oct. 28, 2010
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