He's a super smart boy (age 11), very kind, has many friends but at times he walks around with his head down and doesn't look people in the face when talking. He had a band concert last night, it went great but my son seemed distracted, had to be told to stand up after the concert to bow and was acting so weird. His friends run up to him to say hi, and he looks down as if he's embarrased!
We asked him what's up with him and he says nothing, cries and moops around. He's very emotional. Help!
Answer by older at 10:47 AM on Oct. 29, 2010
Answer by _Tam_ at 10:52 AM on Oct. 29, 2010
Answer by newmom28 at 11:19 AM on Oct. 29, 2010
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Answer by LACEY122 at 3:15 PM on Oct. 29, 2010
You can not GIVE someone confidence.................. They have to earn confidence by doing and succeeding.
You can help set him up for success. You can give him pointers to be successful. But HE has to do those things for himself. HE has to prove to himself that he CAN succeed.. and in turn WILL have confidence.
Answer by sahlady at 4:00 PM on Oct. 29, 2010
oh... and do NOT praise everything he does... that isnt how a child learns to be successful. That just makes them think they can do nothing wrong.
Point out the good things (yes you can compliment/praise those things) but say I saw when you did XYZ and how did that make YOU feel? I thought it was a pretty smart thing for you to do XYZ because it lead to this or that. HELP them see when they make a good choices, allowe thier feelings to come out.
IF they make a poor choice point it out. Hey I saw you did ZYX and it lead to a bad grade.... darn... what do you think would have been a better choice? How do you think you should correct the mistake of choosing ZYX?
Of course a child needs to know that you love them care about them and are there for them... but praising every thing they do is unnecessary.
Answer by sahlady at 4:05 PM on Oct. 29, 2010
Answer by dutchcanadain at 12:17 AM on Nov. 3, 2010