im 20 years old i already have a 2 year old daughter and am no longer with her dad i met another guy and we were together for a little more then a year when i got pregnant with another baby i def dont believe in abortion so i went with adoption the whole time i was pregnant i went back and forth trying to decide if i wanted to give her up for adoption or keep her i decided to give her to a family who couldt have children of there own even though deep down i didnt want to it didnt make sense to me and still doesnt why i kept one and gave her up i had my reasons for doing what i did but at the same time i didnt want to do it i know its something i cant completely get over but what are some ways i can deal with it a little better?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 12:42 PM on Oct. 29, 2010 in Adoption
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You need to get some counseling to help deal with all these feelings. It is very hard I know. I am a birth mother too. I can not say the pain every goes away you just deal with it in a different way I guess. Do you have contact with the adoptive family? Maybe if they sent you a picture or letter so you know how she is doing. It must be really hard for you since you have one and gave up the other. You did it out of love I know. As the years go on you will learn how to deal with pain better. I can not say it will get easier because we all deal with our feelings in different ways. You need someone to talk to and share your feelings with so please try and find a counselor. In the beginning when I first go away my daughter, I was in so much pain but found a great counselor that helped with through some of those rough patches. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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