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how long did your baby cry when you tried crying it out. . .

we started yesterday at the recommendation of our pediatrician. Our baby is 12 weeks and has learned that we will hold him to sleep so he wakes up every 30 min to one hour all day and night for us to pick him up from his crib just so he can fall back asleep.

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Asked by newmommy4011 at 2:31 PM on Oct. 29, 2010 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • he never was a crying baby always happy until he started growing theeth...

    Answer by LACEY122 at 2:34 PM on Oct. 29, 2010

  • Wow, I would NOT CIO with a 12 week old. It is for older babies if at all. And just because your doc ok's it, doesn't make it ok.

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 2:35 PM on Oct. 29, 2010

  • give him a good bath make him him feel all good and smelly nice warm bottle and he will be good to go. read a book, sing, pray many things you can do so be blessed!!!!!

    Answer by LACEY122 at 2:36 PM on Oct. 29, 2010

  • My first baby i picked up as soon as she cried. My second baby is almost 7 months and i breastfeed on demand. so with her i picked her up and would feed her to go back to sleep. I don't believe in letting them cry. Thats your baby! If you want to hold him hold him! :)

    Answer by Katy1213 at 2:36 PM on Oct. 29, 2010

  • My DS wasn't really a cry baby, but when he did cry, from the very beginning, we got to him immediately, but didn't "rush" to him and make a big fuss over it. Since we've established that we will be there if and when he needs us, he doesn't feel so urged to cry and cry. So, not long.

    Now that he's 18mo, if he's crying just to throw a fit, he gets about half a minute after being asked to quiet down before he is to try to SAY what it is he wants or is upset about or he goes to time-out on his bed until he stops crying. Sometimes it takes longer than others, anywhere from 3-15mins. We're encouraging him to share his feelings as opposed to just burst out crying. So far it's working!

    Answer by matobe at 2:39 PM on Oct. 29, 2010

  • Instead of letting infants cry, American parents should keep their babies close, console them when they cry, and bring them to bed with them, where they'll feel safe, according to Michael L. Commons and Patrice M. Miller, researchers at the Medical School's Department of Psychiatry.  ...  "Parents should recognize that having their babies cry unnecessarily harms the baby permanently," Commons said. "It changes the nervous system so they're overly sensitive to future trauma."



    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 2:42 PM on Oct. 29, 2010

  • well I would give it another month beofor letting him CIO. then keep in mind what CIO 'really' means. You let him cry for 2-3 min then go in and reassure and rub his back. Then let him cry 4-5 min, go in reassure rub his back. Then 6-8 min. Never go more than 10-15 min and Never wait that long if the crying becomes frantic. Whimpering and fussing is one thing all out crying is a whole 'nother story. For now try to get him to go to sleep with you patting his bottom(I dunno why but they like it) or rubbing his back and only rock when that doesn't work.

    Answer by But_Mommie at 2:43 PM on Oct. 29, 2010

  • I never believed in letting a baby cry. They must be crying for a reason. If you want to pick him up, do it.

    Answer by hootie826 at 2:50 PM on Oct. 29, 2010

  • 12 weeks is way too young for CIO even for CIO advocates. Please research CIO extensively before deciding on a sleep training method. It is one of the only methods that has research showing that it may be damaging to the child. Another thing your doctor should have told you is that sleep is a developmental milestone reached in each child's own time. CIO may very well make sleep much harder for your child especially if your child is waking up looking for your comfort. Which is their way of building the trust bond.  Once baby trusts that you will be there for them when they need you baby will stop waking so frequently.  That is one of the reasons why ignoring a baby's cries will keep you in the position you wish to get out of for much longer. Please research before attempting CIO with your precious one.


    Answer by mama_l at 2:50 PM on Oct. 29, 2010

  • too early.. too early for CIO.. period

    Answer by maxsmom11807 at 3:01 PM on Oct. 29, 2010

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