Say gave up for adoption? We birthmoms make a choice to "Place the child for adoption".. it just sounds so cold to me that some are convinced that it is giving up, not making a conscious decsion. My adoption coordinator, counselors, and lawyer stressed that to me. We don't just give up, we choose to make a choice for a baby to have a better life than what we feel at that time in our lives we could give them. A very unselfish decesion.
So true and good point. I am adopted and was able to get a hold of the court transcripts from 1962. The language they used in court and on court records was amazing to me now. The language has changed a lot since then, but still needs to be updated. I will be forever grateful to my birth mom for making the decision to give me a better life then she ever could have given to me. Hugs to you!
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i THINK ( personal opinion) that some say that because (1) it's true in a lot of cases and (2) some just don't understand how the birth moms feel, i for one was given away because my bio mother CHOSE not to (1) learn to read (2) ask questions (3) fight for her rights . not all mothers are like mine, but then again there are many who are worse then mine. so i think that's why the term "gave away" was given... because some are.
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Answer by ceallaigh at 2:41 PM on Oct. 31, 2010
well some of us were locked away in an agency home without access to a phone ,money or any contact with the outside.The o.b. and staff came to the agency home and talked about us as if we were not real woman that could feel. In the hospital we also had our own special rooms set aside where the phones had been removed to help keep us "PROTECTED" but so thoughtfully put us close to the stations so we could hear all the babies and their families TOGETHER.Not allowed to call out till after paperwork was signed in order to" PROTECT"' us from outside influences that might help us keep our babies.My family did happily stick me there.So you know there was no choice to place for adoption for me.I could describe it differently but I think gave up or relinquish is a more pleasant choice.You tell your truth and I will tell mine.
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