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please help :(

emmy, is a lil trouble maker! n i don't know where she got this from.. i don't let them watch violent things even tho a lot of cartoons are that way now-a- days n so i let her watch nick jr or that learning channel sprout.. and so if i leave them 2 alone just for a min (i can always see em) and so emmy likes to beat on her brother like biting and clawing him and so i have done everything from separating them and putting him in his room which is FULL of fun things and gating his room, placing her in her play-pen (she always gets out) i just don't what to do and i know she doesn't mean it she's always looking for a play mate :( they are very close but i just don't know watt to do.. but if landed hits her or pushes her down i punish him (no tv before bed, or he goes in the corner)

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Asked by ourlove_asone at 7:31 PM on Oct. 31, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • They need to be closely supervised when they are very young and they each need one on one time with you and your SO. They both need to feel special. Sometimes they go for the negative attention if they do not get enough positive attention. Make sure they get praised when they do things right and show affection towards each other. GL!!

    Answer by elizabr at 7:36 PM on Oct. 31, 2010

  • you need to be extremely clear: NO HITTING in this house, in this family nip this in the bud NOW woth them. it is UNacceptable and there hsoudl be some consequences fo the next person that does it of them. a big one liek no toys or no sweets or dessert. no tv at ALL. you are doig good -- sprout and nick JR are fine, and noggin too. those are awesome actually,. also model good affection to each of them to shwo the other that THIS is what you do... we are family and we love each other. make sure neither of them is teasin gthe other when you are out of the room or not sharing, etc. gosh. i havent had this problem. my little sister would punch me in the arm as she was tougher but not the clawing and scratchign that is concerning. be FIRM. Zero tolerance. make sure your marriage is also showing a good example if you are married or have a partner... they learn form US.

    Answer by silverelf at 7:36 PM on Oct. 31, 2010

  • she also needs to learn to play independently. no child shoudl ALWAYS have a playmate and playign independently is actually a develiopmental SKILL that is widely overlooked. i work with disabled adults and many of them cannot sustain an activity by themselves and this is usually one of their objectives so they dont go lookign for someone after only 5 minutes. my son i used to tell him after playing all the time: Now it is time fo ryou to choose an activity and play independetly, and he did and still does : )

    Answer by silverelf at 7:38 PM on Oct. 31, 2010

  • thank you all so much! landens father is only in HIS life and not hers! (don't ask, its very long) and my bf had adopted her as his own but we don't really see each other so im raising them as a single parent of course with god parents.. and i praise my kids when something they do is good or right! i do not hard tap her hand and tell her "NO" emma doesn't understand rules but i tell them everyday the house rules! and when my son goes over his father's he's disciplined and i just need to get her disciplined at an early age! im hoping this is only a stage bc she will be 3 in july as well as their new sibling

    Comment by ourlove_asone (original poster) at 7:43 PM on Oct. 31, 2010

  • o she plays by herself bc he's at school, but once he's home she expects him to play with her all the time. and sometimes she will scream her head off for an hour (i don't know y.. she gets attention, she gets loving.. i would love to know where she's getting it)

    Comment by ourlove_asone (original poster) at 7:53 PM on Oct. 31, 2010

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