I'm 17 years old. I have A kid and engaged and i live with my boyfriend....and his mother. Recently she's been very annoying. We got along great before i had my daughter but now that Lily is here she's been acting as if she is lily's mom and not me. She's takes Lily out of my room in the mornings and brings her into her room even if she is still sleeping and she's schedules Doctors appointments for Lily without my consent. I finally said something to her about it and now his WHOLE family thinks I'm the bad guy. They've only heard her story though and now i feel like crap. What do I do.?Answer Question
Answer by MoMoFu at 3:24 AM on Nov. 1, 2010
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Answer by Mrs.Norris at 3:55 AM on Nov. 1, 2010
What state do you live in? Cause most states your are concerned an adult once you have become a parent. You need to check your state laws. I don't know who told you that you can't apply for this stuff like section 8 you should also get on WIC. This women needs to told straight out that you are her PARENT and you aren't the bad guy here this mother-in law needs to MIND HER OWN BUSINESS. You should like you have your shit together except for not knowing that there's things that you should have apply for Months ago like when you found out you were preggo.
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Answer by SweetLuci at 9:15 AM on Nov. 1, 2010
You are in a hard spot. But you do have some power. Go to all her doctor appointments. Call her doctor's office. Let them know MIL does not have permission to schedule appointments nor receive health information. Solves that. When she goes to call legally they can not give her the ability to change, make, or discuss personal health information. If you want to be in charge then you have to go to all appointments. Now if you rely on her to go to some appointments because you can't.....well your stuck. You can't have it both ways. You can't ask her to do some things or tasks only when it suits you. As far as the doctor's office it is an all or nothing situation. You either go to all or you have to understand that she is going to do what she is doing. I would make it a priority to go to all because one day she could make a case you are not doing your job as a mom if she ever brings you to family court.
Answer by frogdawg at 11:25 AM on Nov. 1, 2010
The next step is doing things around the home for your daughter if you are not already : laundry, dinner, baths, cooking for you and the family on a rotational basis. Cleaning the home. YOU have to be the one. It doesn't matter if your bf is not doing those things. That is her son....she will forgive him for his laziness but believe me she won't give you the same courtesy. Yes, she will take your baby and baby her. Yes, she will mother your child. Yes, it will drive you crazy and it may be over the line. But you also live with her. So that is how it goes. DO set a timer and have Mommy Time. Each day uninterrupted 30 minutes of time to play, read, and cuddle. Hang a sign. Play music and dance around the room. Get out some toys (simple toys if young or do some tummy time). But carve out some space. This way you get your time, you are protecting your space, and you give her the freedom to mother her grandchild. Which
Answer by frogdawg at 11:32 AM on Nov. 1, 2010
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