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How do I get my 4 year old to sleep in his own bed?

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Asked by Michelle262 at 6:00 PM on Nov. 1, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • my anwser would be since hes already been sleeping with you and he doesnt want to sleep in his own bed your going to have to just put him in his room and let himself cry to sleep sounds harsh i know but it might be the only way

    Answer by angelnina8715 at 6:06 PM on Nov. 1, 2010

  • Have you tried laying with him in his bed until he falls asleep? Then, gradually start decreasing the time that you lay with him. It will probably take a while to get him comfortable with sleeping by himself.

    Answer by JeanetteRene at 6:08 PM on Nov. 1, 2010

  • He's four, hes old enough that if you explain it he should understand. Just be consecutive. He will keep coming back to your bad and you are going to have to keep putting him back.

    Answer by Amelia512 at 6:31 PM on Nov. 1, 2010

  • my son sleeps in his room, he hates it, every night is pretty much the same procedure. i put him in bed and explain there are no monsters, i have to leave the bathroom light on for him.

    Answer by angevil53 at 6:34 PM on Nov. 1, 2010

  • Buy him something cool for his bed. For instance, if he loves toy story...get him some toy story sheets, pillow cases & blanket & a toystory stuffed animal. Get him pumped for it before hand. Tell him you are so excited to get him his new stuff for his big boy bed.

    This worked for my DD. She was 4 when she started sleeping in her room. BUT, she didn't have a bed. So, before i bought one, i got her all psyched for her "big girl" bed. We got cool sheets that i let her pick out, i showed her pics of her new bed online....long story short, i got her super excited for this bed. worked like a charm. She was so excited about her bed, that the transition was so much easier than i expected.,EVEN after sleeping with me for 4 years!

    Answer by samurai_chica at 6:55 PM on Nov. 1, 2010

  • If he's used to sleeping with u then give him something u
    wear so. He can sme ur scent weird I kno but works

    Answer by mellibear at 12:26 AM on Nov. 2, 2010

  • do it the super nanny way.... its definatly your best bet.. put him in his room with a night light and explain to him everything is ok and mommy will always be right here for you maybe even a bed time story then explain but big kids sleep in their own beds.. then step out of the room and wait outside the door or down the hall if he gets up put him back the first two times putting him back saying bed time baby be a big boy after the second time you say nothing no eye contact just put him back keep with dont stop.. most likely there will be crying but and it might last a while but sooner or later he will tire himself right out and fall asleep continue this every night. i mean come on they would not have givin her her own show for like 4 straight years in a row if what she does and teaches parents didnt work not to mention she has been a nanny for like 18years....this is the best way to accomplish what you want..

    Answer by lovinmybaby87 at 1:14 PM on Nov. 5, 2010

  • The cry it out method isn't the only way. Lay down with him in his bed until he goes to sleep. Make sure he has a special blanket or something to help comfort him for if he wakes up.

    Answer by _Tam_ at 10:51 PM on Nov. 18, 2010

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