Around here "norm" is Joint Custody. Which means: there is a "primary residence" for the child (in my case, I have primary residence). The kids go with their dad e/o weekend, e/o holiday and 4 weeks in the summer. What you're talking about is "SHARED custody". There for a while it was common here, but judges are shying away from it these days. He may not have been there before, but obviously now wants to be a part of your child's life. A child needs a father. I can understand why you're upset though. Not having to share your baby, then this bomb was dropped on you. It either will turn out well,your child will have an active father... or, he'll decide he doesn't want to be a dad that often,lay off the custody and work something out with you that would be more like "joint". Then, NAIL him for child support!! USUALLY in cases of SHARED custody, there is no child support ordered unless he's behind on previous orders.
at 2:26 PM on Oct. 31, 2008