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When is it time?

When is it time to start to have Thanksgiving dinner at you own house, and not at your mothers. We always have it at my moms and my MIL's. I thhink I want to have it at my house, but I know my mom would be so upset if I didn't come to hers and I know she loves doing it and would make sure she had her dinner. So when is it time to actually start to have your own dinner?

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Asked by sheloveearth at 11:24 PM on Nov. 1, 2010 in Holidays

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  • We are having our own for the first time this year. We may even have my father in law here from out of state. Situations are different for everyone. I think the right time is whenever you decide it is. Good luck and have a good Thanksgiving!

    Answer by Kword at 11:25 PM on Nov. 1, 2010

  • at any time just invite both sides to your house.

    Answer by Lynnsae at 11:26 PM on Nov. 1, 2010

  • If you do not have children, it might be nice to continue at their place, but since you're on cafemom, I'm sure you are either hoping to expand your family or already do have some little ones- and it would be fine to try it at your place.

    Answer by txdaniella at 11:27 PM on Nov. 1, 2010

  • My mother in law refuses to have Thanksgiving dinner anywhere but her house. She did let my sister in law cook last year, but only because they do things the same way. Both are creatures of habit. My mother has been saying for years its time for someone else to take over the cooking --and every year she wants to either take over the cooking or insists on bringing something. How about suggesting to your mom to trade off with you at least? You take it one year, she takes it the next, and on the years that its your turn, ask her if she would mind bringing her specialty? And be sure to call and ask for some sort of advice. She wants to feel needed I'm thinking.

    Answer by duckigrrl at 11:34 PM on Nov. 1, 2010

  • I'm thinking your Mom wouldn't be too hurt if you talked to her about it...she had to host her first dinner at some point too. We used to split our time too during the holidays, it was tough but in the end it worked out. Good Luck!

    Answer by uglyrose at 11:36 PM on Nov. 1, 2010

  • Now is the time. You should ask your mother and mother-in-law when did they first have Thanksgiving at their own home after starting their family. You got to start some time. Eventually they will get tired and will be happy to have someone else do all the work!

    Answer by Iluvautumn at 11:54 PM on Nov. 1, 2010

  • I think it is different for each family. My grandma and her sisters did the christmas eve gathering up until a few years ago and my grandma still does thanksgiving for everyone. I figure she is not going to be around as long as my mom or me so let her enjoy it while she can.

    Answer by MooNFaeRie30 at 5:16 PM on Nov. 5, 2010

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