I have had the same problem. My boys are 6 and 3 and I was going insane with the constant bickering.
I talked to them about starting House rules, we went over them together and then we posted them so everyone could see (including me so I have no excuses to not follow through)
1; Nice hands, feet, and words
2; No screaming, or whinning
3; stop is stop, no is no
Simple and to the point, if they brake the rules they have a time out to cool down. Dont talk to them when they are in trouble either, talk later.
Another thing is before it reaches "that point" talk to them about how you can solve the problem that they are fighting about
ex. fighting over taking turns with a toy, one child gets it for 5 min when the timer goes off the other
hope this helps
at 3:55 PM on Oct. 31, 2008