My daughter's sperm donor showed up at our door when she was 14. For 14 years I had begged him to talk to her, to write to her, to communicate with her. A few years he would call around Thanksgiving and ask her what she wanted for Christmas, get her hopes up that she was going to get it, and then nothing. Until the birthday rolled around, with the same scenario. He was paying $200. a month child support for those 14 years, under duress, that was the only reason he paid. I let him move into our spare room, and he immediately went to work on my daughter. It didn't work, he couldn't turn her against me, and she told me EVERYTHING as it happened, so that took a while for him to accept. She can't force herself to talk to him about her personal life, he wants to know everything, and i DON'T try to force it. He's an alcoholic, so she avoids him mostly, she just hugged him for the first time a week ago, and she is 17 now.
at 10:07 PM on Nov. 3, 2010